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How Good Parenting Makes Police Work Easy

By Ari Mathew • June 9, 2011 • Filed in: Criminal Law Ranting

Written by Ari Mathew, an attorney not affiliated with The Law Offices of Marnie Slavin.

Not intended as legal advice.

“Did you brush your teeth?” my mother asked me.

“Yes” I replied meekly.

My father looked cross while my mother left the room.  “You have been watching TV in the living room for an hour, correct”

“Yes, Dad.”

“Before that you were playing basketball, right?”

“Uh huh”

“And before that was dinner?”

“I guess.”

“You brushed your teeth after dinner right? Because if you brushed them before dinner then you would have to brush them again. You realize that?”


My mother comes back from the bathroom with my toothbrush. Her fingers are lightly tapping the bristles. “The toothbrush—it’s dry; no one has used it for hours.”  She shoots me a long cold stare. “Just tell us the truth son. It will be okay.”

“Well, I can’t remember if I brushed my teeth but I guess if the brush is dry…”

“Son” my father interjected “You should not lie to us, but brush your teeth now and go straight to bed.”

I had disappointed my parents and received the minor punishment of an early bedtime. However, I was the better for it. I did not want to disappoint my parents, thus, I was less likely to lie to them in the future.  They also used this opportunity to educate me on the importance of brushing my teeth. My father opened his mouth to show me a mess of metal from past cavities he had filled. This was good parenting. They did not let me off the hook but there was no severe punishment either. When they told me it would be okay if I told them the truth they were not lying.

Similar scenarios surely occur with parents and children regardless of economic status, race or geography. A child messed up and a parent sets him straight.

So how do good parents get us in trouble later in life? Well we learn to trust authority. We learn that if we admit our faults and own our mistakes the punishment will not be so harsh. It is a good lesson for our personal lives.

However, legally it could be nightmare. Police officers know this and use it against us. Though, it is a crime to lie to the police, the police may lie to us. They tell us if we admit to a crime it will be okay. If we fess up the penalty will be less harsh. The vast majority of the time this is not true. They just get the confession and it becomes ammunition in court.  If failing to brush teeth were a crime and my parents were police officers I would have two marks on my record. One for failing to brush my teeth and another for lying to the police.  If I had remained silent and objected to the search of my toothbrush, I could have gotten away with it.

This is true even for something as simple as a speeding ticket. Do you know how fast you were going? “Yes, 70 MPH.” An admission of guilt. “Yes, 55 MPH” A lie and a crime. “No.” An admission of ignorance.  “Are you permitted to give warnings officer?”  That is a good one.

A crime any more serious and “I won’t talk without my lawyer,” will usually be the best answer you can give.

The best of us want to own up to our mistakes. We want to confess when we slip up morally. Our family, many of our religions, and our instincts tell us it’s the right thing to do.  Do not worry; you will get a chance to do so. Usually, the best time to do this is after we have been charged with a crime, when we have a lawyer to negotiate the terms of our admission.  Rarely is it in our best interest to confess to the police.


I never liked brushing my teeth.

By Zachary Belinsky on May 25th, 2011 at 10:47 pm

It is an acquired joy.

You write in your windycitydefense article that you should ask a police officer “are you permitted to give warnings?”. My question, is there a better way to phrase that as to not antagonize the police officer?

By Zachary Belinsky on June 4th, 2011 at 2:07 pm

If you are polite and submissive in your tone it is unlikely to sound antagonistic. I prefer asking it they are permitted to give warnings as opposed to asking directly for a warning. It accomplishes the same thing without putting the officer on the spot. It worked for me once in Wisconsin. The officer did not answer my question but when he came back from his sqad car I only had a warning.

I am watching Giada on TV and I wonder how often she brushes her teeth with all that messy food.

Why does it seems cops more concerned with cases than public safety?

Ill give them credit for one thing, however. They always gave him less work than he could handle, which is why I dont think they were as concerned about any set number on an innings jump year over year. But they hurt the team with his ineffectiveness, and the team always has to come first. So they blew it.

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ha you guys got screwed over in 08

I will say though, Ive been to almost every NFL stadium (I work in a sports-related field) and the craziest, best fans I ever saw were Eagles fans at the old stadium against the Cowboys. I almost got my ass kicked 3 times and I was rooting for the Eagles! Love it.

She did show up here later well, sorta. She flew in to the airport (between the City of Eagle and Eagle Village), had a photo op there, got on a 6-wheeler with others in her entourage, and made a quick trip out to the Native Village on the temporary road. I dont believe she ever made it in to the City or to the emergency coordination center, although I could be wrong about that.

They may have sound legal reasoning on the (intentionally, IMHO) narrowed question but I think they are motivated by a protectionist instinct to find a way to frame the question thusly.

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Religiously, we have been for several generations increasingly persuaded to accept error as doctrinal fact in regards to some social issues. Whether by innocence or contrivance (and both have applied), the net result is that we have felt obliged to tolerate error in policy and in behavior. One specific manner in which this has occurred is in allowing others, including our own children perhaps, to shame us into accepting unGodliness by virtue of our own sin and failure. The precedent-setting principle, succinctly stated, is that If I have committed an error (and sin), then that error (and sin) is thereby excused from reproach and sanctified to all who may engage it.Thus, we have tolerated behaviors to the point of condoning them. One example being that we ceased to tolerate the privacy of other peoples bedrooms by not peering through their bedroom windows, but instead invited them to make their practices public. And protected by law. UnGODLY law.Another example, more pertinent perhaps to this story, is the acceptance of entitlement ideology.the belief that everyone shouldshare the wealth whether they contribute or not, and whether they do not contribute purely by choice. To paraphrase something I believe God said in the Old Testament, If a man wont work, dont feed him. And one of the 6 (or 7) things God has stated that He hates (yes, fact) is a lazy man.Finally, as believers in Judeo-Christian principles and the God who delivered them, if we leave charity to the government, are we not simply thinking to assuage our own conscience? And in this, do we not deprive ourselves of sincerely demonstrating (to our God) our compassion for those in true need around us? As Mr. Crockett aptly stated, when we see a need and are persuaded that help is appropriate, we should give of our Selves and from our own pocket.We need to not only learn better what the Constitution says, but to understand clearly what the thoughts and principles of the founding fathers were when they composed it.

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I can work out what to post manually, read the blog join in and so on, but what should use as the autoposted comments?


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